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以善为灯,昼夜不会迷失

我在北京听说过不少人家,或因财产,或缘其他因由,兄弟姐妹反目成仇,闹上法庭,甚至有人因败诉而气绝身亡。最近,我家姐妹间,也因小事生隙,心中感慨。于是写下此文,愿与自己、与世人共勉。

人非圣贤,孰能无过?若人们能常念手足之情,在不如意时,仍能保有一份善良,许多悲剧或许可以避免。

人们追求美,多是外表之美,而在人世间长存不灭、可歌可泣的真善美,更多源自心灵之美。

人们常祈祷上天保佑,却未曾深思,天道自有其公义:上天的眷顾,正是凭着人间的真善美而赢得的。正所谓:“老天是公平的。”

人与人之间,尤其是至亲之情,最难得的是一份宽容与体谅。怨恨易积,恩情难续,世间许多悲剧,往往始于一念之差。若能念及同根之情,念及共度童年的温暖时光,许多隔阂与纷争,或许便可烟消云散。

人生无常,得失荣辱皆如过眼云烟。唯有守住心底的那片真善美,真心待人,善待亲情,方能在风雨飘摇中,留下一片温暖的人间净土。

常有人叹世道凉薄,感慨人心不古。其实,世道如何,人心如何,很大程度上取决于我们自己。若心中有爱,眼中便有光;若肯以善待身边的人,生活便不会太冷。

手足情深,亲情可贵。人生苦短,愿我们都能珍惜那一份来之不易的缘分,在纷繁世事中,守住内心的一片真善美。

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